Truth #2: Women need to feel loved before wanting sex.

I often wonder why God set up this dynamic. Why, oh, why, oh, why??? As always, I assume it must be a picture of God's relationship with us. We have to feel loved before we will come to Him, so He made the ultimate sacrifice so that we would never have to doubt His love for us. He gives more to us than we give to Him. Our husbands spend more time loving us in our way than we spend loving them in their way.

Unfortunately, it doesn't come naturally to a man, so your first fight will probably be traceable back to this truth. Whether you are arguing over how to fold the clothes or when to take out the trash or whose parents to visit, the argument will always boil down to this truth: YOU didn't feel loved.

Once he recognizes this, he will immediately try to kiss you or hug you (because that's how he feels loved), and you'll probably push him away at best, and more than likely yell at him. He will be perplexed, confused and hurt. He'll probably yell back or storm away depending on his personality type.


It will take a couple of hours to work everything out (mainly getting him to listen and understand). Then you will feel loved, and then he'll kiss you and wonder why it too so long because this is what he wanted to do in the first place!


Note: this is why kissing and touching during an engagement is sooooo deliriously wonderful for both parties. The man is getting his love needs met, and the woman is not only getting her love needs met, but surrendering her heart and soul.

Truth #1: All Men Want is Sex

This is very true, but not as crude at as it sounds. We could just as easily say: All women want is love. The two statements would mean the same thing. They hold equal value. Men feel loved when they have sex. They feel loved when you respond with joy and pleasure when they touch you. They feel loved when you want them -- even after a crummy day. I believe that's why the bible commands us to respect our husband. Because if you respect your husband, you'll give him what he needs even if you don't need it. So, when you get married, remember to love your husband in the way he receives love. AND rember that if he only talked to you 2 or 3 times a week, you'd probably get really angry at him, and you'd say he didn't love you.

Note: this is why when you date a guy, he won't see anything wrong with getting physical with you.